1. Give yourself permission to be human. When we accept emotions — such as fear, sadness, or anxiety — as natural, we are more likely to overcome them. Rejecting our emotions, positive or negative, leads to frustration and unhappiness.
2. Happiness lies at the intersection between pleasure and meaning. Whether at work or at home, the goal is to engage in activities that are both personally significant and enjoyable. When this is not feasible, make sure you have happiness boosters, moments throughout the week that provide you with both pleasure and meaning.
3. Keep in mind that happiness is mostly dependent on our state of mind, not on our status or the state of our bank account. Barring extreme circumstances, our level of well being is determined by what we choose to focus on (the full or the empty part of the glass) and by our interpretation of external events. For example, do we view failure as catastrophic, or do we see it as a learning opportunity?
4. Simplify! We are, generally, too busy, trying to squeeze in more and more activities into less and less time. Quantity influences quality, and we compromise on our happiness by trying to do too much.
5. Remember the mind-body connection. What we do — or don't do — with our bodies influences our mind. Regular exercise, adequate sleep, and healthy eating habits lead to both physical and mental health.
6. Express gratitude, whenever possible. We too often take our lives for granted. Learn to appreciate and savor the wonderful things in life, from people to food, from nature to a smile.
1. 讓自己作為一個(gè)人吧。當(dāng)我們接受情感——例如恐懼、悲傷或者焦慮——的時(shí)候,自然地,我們極可能去抑制它們。拒絕我們的情感,無論是正面的或負(fù)面的,都會(huì)導(dǎo)致沮喪和不幸。
2. 幸福處在愉快和旨趣的交集之處。無論在工作中還是在家里,目標(biāo)都是從事個(gè)人重大的并且令人愉快的活動(dòng)。當(dāng)這不可能時(shí),要確信你在整個(gè)一周里有幸福的后援、時(shí)刻,提供給你的既是愉快也是旨趣。
3. 請記住,幸福大多取決于我們的精神狀態(tài),而不是我們的地位或者我們銀行帳戶的狀況。除非出現(xiàn)極端的情況,我們的福祉水平是由我們選擇關(guān)注的內(nèi)容 (滿的或者空出部分的玻璃杯)以及由我們對外部事件的解釋來決定的。例如,我們認(rèn)為失敗是悲慘的,還是我們把它看作是一個(gè)學(xué)習(xí)的機(jī)會(huì)呢?
4. 簡約化!我們一般都太忙碌了,力圖把越來越多的活動(dòng)擠進(jìn)越來越少的時(shí)間里。數(shù)量影響質(zhì)量,我們由于試圖做得太多而傷害了我們的幸福。
5. 記住身心的聯(lián)系。我們做什么——或者不做什么——以及我們的身體,影響我們的精神。定期運(yùn)動(dòng)、充足的睡眠和健康的飲食習(xí)慣,會(huì)導(dǎo)致身體和精神健康。
6. 每當(dāng)可能的時(shí)候,表達(dá)感謝之情。我們也經(jīng)常認(rèn)為我們的生命是理所當(dāng)然的事。學(xué)會(huì)欣賞和享受現(xiàn)實(shí)生活中的美好事物,從人們到食物,從大自然到微笑