That 'Nobody on his deathbed ever said, 'I wish I'd spent more time at the office,'' is a well-worn idiom.

Yet a new long-term study, published in the latest edition of the Journal of Family Psychology (subscription required) affirms that thinking: Fortifying family ties, not making more money, is the best way to become a happier person.

The research, based on a 10-year look at 274 married people's happiness over time, found that improvement in 'family social support' had the power to make people happier over the life of the study, while increases in income did not. Families were rated high in social support if members were helpful and compassionate with each other, talked often and honestly, and fought infrequently. A change in income over the life of the study didn't change subjects' reported happiness over time. (To be sure, when measured at any fixed point in time, higher-income people in this mostly middle-class sample tended to be slightly happier in general, says the study, led by researchers at the University of Texas, Austin; a happier family life had an even bigger effect, however.)

The study is unusual in taking a long-term perspective. By pitting family against work, it mirrors the way these priorities often compete in daily life. And the findings ring true for me. While increases in income or career success have been pleasant distractions for me, I derive fundamental meaning and contentment largely from my relationships with my children, my brother and sister and my nieces and nephews.

Of course, happiness is a complex topic. Other experts - most notably psychologist Martin Seligman, author of the bestselling books 'Learned Optimism' and 'Authentic Happiness' - say the underpinnings of happiness are more internal, based largely on the individual's ability to cultivate, focus on and express positive emotion. The mind-set that produces happiness and well-being can be learned, serving as an antidote to depression and meaninglessness, these experts say.

Readers, do you think your personal happiness derives from external factors such as family support, or internal emotions? What role, if any, do money and career success play?

“從來沒人在臨終之際說：‘我要是把更多的時間花在了辦公室就好了。’”這句話被人們引用了無數(shù)次。

而最新一期Journal of Family Psychology上發(fā)表的一篇長期研究論文再次肯定了這種觀點(diǎn)：要讓自己更幸福，最好的辦法是加強(qiáng)親情，而不是多掙錢。

這項研究對274位已婚人士進(jìn)行了10年的跟蹤調(diào)查，關(guān)注他們在各個時期的幸福感，研究發(fā)現(xiàn)，“家庭社會支持”的改善能夠讓研究對象覺得自己的生活更幸福，而加薪則起不到這樣的效果。如果家庭成員互相幫助，相親相愛，經(jīng)常交談，坦誠相對，很少吵架，那么家庭的社會支持度就很高。研究對象的薪資變化并沒有影響長時間的幸福感。（當(dāng)然，研究表明，以固定的時間點(diǎn)衡量，這個大多由中產(chǎn)階層組成的研究對象群體中收入較高者總體來說幸福感略強(qiáng)，不過幸福的家庭生活的效應(yīng)更強(qiáng)。該研究由得克薩斯大學(xué)奧斯汀分校(University of Texas, Austin)的研究人員牽頭進(jìn)行。）

這項研究從長期角度出發(fā)，這一點(diǎn)不同尋常。通過將家庭生活與工作進(jìn)行對比，反映出了這些方面常常在日常生活中互相沖突的方式。而研究結(jié)果對我來說很真實。雖然加薪或事業(yè)上的成功對于我也是很愉快的調(diào)劑，但我覺得真正有意義、讓我覺得滿足的是我與自己的孩子、兄弟姐妹以及侄子侄女們的親情。

當(dāng)然，幸福是個復(fù)雜的話題。另外一些專家──其中最著名的就是心理學(xué)家、著有《學(xué)會樂觀》(Learned Optimism)和《真實的快樂》(Authentic Happiness)的馬丁·塞利格曼(Martin Seligman)──認(rèn)為，幸福的基石更多地關(guān)乎人的內(nèi)心，在很大程度上是基于一個人發(fā)掘、關(guān)注和表達(dá)正面情緒的能力。這些專家說，產(chǎn)生快樂和幸福感的心態(tài)是可以習(xí)得的，這種心態(tài)可以防止沮喪和覺得人生無味的情緒產(chǎn)生。

親愛的讀者，你認(rèn)為你的幸福快樂是源自家庭支持等外在因素，還是內(nèi)心的情緒？如果金錢和事業(yè)成功有一定的作用，它們又如何影響你的幸福感呢？